confidence
i have a new job which a friend got me at video ezy. on my first shifti didn't much feel like my usually self and was very quiet and didn't speak up much. everything was new and i was in an unknown environment. all strange. last night i was there again and things were not so strange or unknown. this gave me more confidence and i was with some one i know.
all this got me thinking about confidence. when we're confident we speak up. when you're somewhere you don't know in an unknown environment we generally sit back and watch others and observe before we make a fool of ourselves. the more confident i am the more i speak up.
i have also been learning to drive. thismorning on the way to uni with my dad we had a good old chat. both him and myself are more confident in my abilities to handle the car. when he was first teaching my neither of us said a word unless it was him yelling something about his life flashing before his eyes confident that something bad was about to happen.... (it didn't).
acting confident can be a good thing too. you then can act yourself into beleving that you can do somthing. act youself into feeling. don't wait for the feeling to come to you act yourself into it. this works with just about everything i have found not just confidence.
but when you act it and believe, it others do to.
i used to be part of the health club at uni and they sent me on a weekend to canberra to learn more about what they were at and to sit on the exect board and make decisions on things i new nothing about. on the first night i barely said anything. they were talking in acronyms and i had no idea what they were on about. on the second day i made a decision to have some fun and well look like every one else did in knowing what was going on. we were having discussions in small groups on this activity they run every two years that i know nothing about. i was all acting as if i new everything and had some big opinion on it all. these other guys there who had been doing it for years were all asking my opinion on the subject... i couldn't believe it.
all this got me thinking about confidence. when we're confident we speak up. when you're somewhere you don't know in an unknown environment we generally sit back and watch others and observe before we make a fool of ourselves. the more confident i am the more i speak up.
i have also been learning to drive. thismorning on the way to uni with my dad we had a good old chat. both him and myself are more confident in my abilities to handle the car. when he was first teaching my neither of us said a word unless it was him yelling something about his life flashing before his eyes confident that something bad was about to happen.... (it didn't).
acting confident can be a good thing too. you then can act yourself into beleving that you can do somthing. act youself into feeling. don't wait for the feeling to come to you act yourself into it. this works with just about everything i have found not just confidence.
but when you act it and believe, it others do to.
i used to be part of the health club at uni and they sent me on a weekend to canberra to learn more about what they were at and to sit on the exect board and make decisions on things i new nothing about. on the first night i barely said anything. they were talking in acronyms and i had no idea what they were on about. on the second day i made a decision to have some fun and well look like every one else did in knowing what was going on. we were having discussions in small groups on this activity they run every two years that i know nothing about. i was all acting as if i new everything and had some big opinion on it all. these other guys there who had been doing it for years were all asking my opinion on the subject... i couldn't believe it.
posted by Cara at
5:40 PM
7 Comments:
mahahaha yes indeed. I always figure if you carry around paper and talk like your important others will agree.
nice blog i suspect i'll be back
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Trav, at 6:19 PM
Yeah, very nice blog.
Although there is more to acting confident and believing it - you must also follow through with it.
Confidence isn't an inability to do something, it's the inability to realise you're full potential.
For example, I can act confident in a science laboratory somewhere, but if I get asked something about quantum physics - I know I've got to bolt. On the other hand, I could lack confidence in a field of IT, but know the correct answers.
Confidence must also be backed up with and followed through by using your knowledge.
In the end, acting confident doesn't make me confident - just like "Calling a tail a leg doesn't make it a leg" (Abe Lincoln). In the end confidence comes back to the knowledge of my own abilities.
Anyway, thats enough of that rant.
Good to see you blogging, now to keep it up :)
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switch, at 6:52 PM
yeah but switch when you start acting confident that can give you the confidence in yourself. i think we need to prove to ourselves that we can do it before we have the confidence in it.
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Cara, at 10:42 PM
I wasn't having a go at acting confident. I was stating that even the act all leads back to ones knowledge of the area.
I agree, acting confident can build confidence. I was just adding that the confidence doesn't come from nowhere, rather from a trust in our own knowledge and abilities - and the application of those.
Acting confident can 'kickstart' it all, but eventually our confidence relies on our knowledge.
Anyway, thats just my interpretation / opinion of matters :)
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switch, at 10:50 PM
You say this to me all the time, and I still don't get it! I can't understand the difference between acting an attitude into existence and putting on a false self...
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Miss C, at 1:55 AM
well perhaps steff that you can only do such things if it is apart of who you are and then it's not putting on a false self....
anyone else know?
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Cara, at 10:12 PM
Yep i know.
Imagine your life everything you could be and do as a piece of A4 paper. Then draw a small box on the paper say 5 by 5cm.
The small box is what you have currently experienced. The A4 paper is what you don't really know about yourself yet...I.e. all of us have the ability i suspect to become axe murders but a lot of us aren't aware of that part...and hopefully won't go there.
To pick a positive example: Public speaking. Most people are not natural public speakers..i wasn't. It's in the A4 paper but outside of the small box.
1. don't assume your no good at something you've never done...how would you know.
2. most people can do something they try hard at. (There are a few things i have tried and still can't do..but they are few)So be positive yes i can do this...because it's more then likely you can.
3.Throw yourself into it...back yourself...and you may suprise yourself.
It's not really acting something into existance...it's more discovering something you didn't know about yourself
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Trav, at 6:12 PM
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