love
a friend sent me this quote a while ago by C.S Lewis "love is being vulnerable"
then asked me what i made of it. well i thought of it for a while and thought that unless you are volnerable with some one and ready to open up, you don't know them. you have to let some one know you to be really able to love them for who they are.
we also have to be able to talk openly. this is being vulnerable. letting people see you through the struggles in life and talking with them about how you're feeling. that can be hard. and it is vulnerable, putting yourself out there with all the risks in that.
another friend thought the same thing and said this
" how can you love someone without truly showing them who you are... doing that makes you the most vulnerable you will ever be"
i also think that love is more than an emotion, more than just feelings, but an action.
the bible says in corinthians 13
'love is patient, love is kind, it is not jelous, it does not boast, it is not proud. love is not rude or selfish.... '
all of these are actions, that is, more than an emotion.
Jesus had the ultimate act of love when He died for us.
"Greater love has no one than this than he lay down his life for his friends." John 15:13
to stick through things in life, the ups and the downs, love needs to be more than what we're feeling, but a commitment, a promise, a devotion to those we love.
if love was just a feeling, we would all be loving people one day, and not the next.
then asked me what i made of it. well i thought of it for a while and thought that unless you are volnerable with some one and ready to open up, you don't know them. you have to let some one know you to be really able to love them for who they are.
we also have to be able to talk openly. this is being vulnerable. letting people see you through the struggles in life and talking with them about how you're feeling. that can be hard. and it is vulnerable, putting yourself out there with all the risks in that.
another friend thought the same thing and said this
" how can you love someone without truly showing them who you are... doing that makes you the most vulnerable you will ever be"
i also think that love is more than an emotion, more than just feelings, but an action.
the bible says in corinthians 13
'love is patient, love is kind, it is not jelous, it does not boast, it is not proud. love is not rude or selfish.... '
all of these are actions, that is, more than an emotion.
Jesus had the ultimate act of love when He died for us.
"Greater love has no one than this than he lay down his life for his friends." John 15:13
to stick through things in life, the ups and the downs, love needs to be more than what we're feeling, but a commitment, a promise, a devotion to those we love.
if love was just a feeling, we would all be loving people one day, and not the next.
posted by Cara at
12:33 AM
3 Comments:
Interesting blog. Yes, love is being vulnerable, but it's also much more than that, as you say it's an action.
Love isn't something we can turn on and off, it isn't something we can dilute. It isn't something we can carve up into bite-sized pieces.
Love is supposed be raw, unsuppressed, we are supposed to feel overwhelmed by it. Yet, we dilute it, removing the vulnerability in it in order to bring back to our comfort zones.
It's removing that risk that puts us at risk - a risk of never creating meaningful relationships. Whilst vulnerability has a lot to do with love, this itself won't make it grow.
I know it's easy to build walls around your life that no one can enter, theres a door that opens inward, but a handle only exists on the other side of the wall. It's no until we either, remove this walls, or let someone in that we can learn to love, and this I guess comes back to the vulnerability thing again.
If love were just a feeling, we could induce it, and as you say, it would come and go.
This is where 'like' comes in. The connotations this word has really, really irritates me. You can say 'I like <insert name here>' and everyone automatically gets the idea you're in love with them, but when you say 'I like chocolate', no one assumes that you want to date it!
This confusion of love is what is helping to contribute to short-term relationships, a deterioration of marriages.
Another misconception is that love is all about looks - so when your partner starts to get creases, so does the relationship. It'll take more than a quick iron to get these out to! The relationship was based on a flawed principle.
That'll do for today, I might have to add more later, I think I might be able to add more...
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Anonymous, at 1:30 AM
"Love is a battlefield" :P
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Miss C, at 3:04 PM
Love is 'a dangerous idea that almost makes sense.'
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Christop, at 9:12 PM
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